Pro-choice advocates get to spike the football today in Kansas today for a change!

As a pro-choice advocate in Kansas, we rarely have anything to celebrate.  In fact, this state is so pro-life, we just set ourselves up for disappointment after disappointment.  

I’m trying to think back on pro-choice victories in Kansas.  Give me a sec.

Well…there is the time that the Supreme Court passed Roe vs. Wade making abortion legal in the United States.

Woo hoo – keep abortion safe and legal! “My body, my choice!” You know the chant.

Ok, so then there was the time…

Well, let me keep thinking for a second.  Talk among yourselves for moment.  Topic:  Candy Corn – it’s definitely candy, but not really corn.  Discuss.

Hum..this is awkward.  I got nothing.  Not a damn thing, because it has only been one disappointment after another leaving women with few options even though abortion is legal in this country.  

Well today pro-choice advocates in Kansas get to spike the damn football for change.  

Phill Kline, former attorney general in the state of Kansas, has had his law license indefinitely suspended for the way he handled investigating abortion clinics.

Take this as a lesson pro-life politicians – you aren’t above the law in your mission to make abortion illegal in Kansas.  

Now excuse me while I do my victory dance in the end zone.  It involves this really cool twerking move I learned watching Miley on the VMAs!  I’m sure as a middle-aged woman I will look equally cool.



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Hester Prynne Comes to #KSleg

The 70 page abortion bill was debated in Kansas today.  The abortion bill was so broad that it our lawmakers actually spent time debating if it would be ok for parents who worked for family planning clinics to volunteer at their children’s school.

Of course we all know a sex education expert  teaching sex education is out of the question.  However,  our KS lawmakers took it one step further debating if it was o.k. for parents to volunteer at schools doing things like…bring cupcakes to school for children.  Not condom cupcakes, just plan, old-fashioned cupcakes.

So to end the debate, it was agreed that the people who work in family planning clinics will for now on have to wear a large A across all articles of clothing whenever they are in public.  The state of Kansas will provide the large A’s to the family planning workers.  The “A” stands for – abortion provider.

I’m just kidding on the last part – the “A” part. Although I feel bad for giving them the idea.  The rest I’m not kidding.  They did finally allow the bill to be amended so that family planning workers could volunteer at their kid’s school.  (the horror)  They can’t teach kids about sex.

The bill is likely to be passed and will soon become the most restrictive abortion legislation in the nation.  Our new state motto: Welcome to Kansas – Knocked up? Not Ready? Sucks to be you!

I know the KS representatives are patting each other on the back, but before you throw yourself a huge kegger celebrating your success, I just want you to pause for a moment and think about something…

Just because you take access away, doesn’t mean the demand goes away.  Women will still seek abortion.

Where will they go?  Not to the back alleys of the 1950s.  They will go online. They will go to the same place that women living in highly abortion restrictive  countries go to find abortion pills go.

They will order unregulated abortion pills and they will die.  The stats from this story are alarming.  1 in 10 women taking abortion pills ordered online end up needing surgery due to complications.  

They can go to this pharmacy where you can “buy one and get one free.”

This is truly disturbing.  Instead of making sure women are safe and supervised by a physician when seeking out an abortion in a medically supervised environment, politicians are now driving women to websites like these for a “buy one get one free” abortion.  I’m sure if women were seeking out self injecting Botox, our government would be all over to make sure it was safe and regulated.

I honestly understand why people don’t want their tax payer money going towards abortion.  As much as I disagree, I get it.  Is there no room for compromise?  Is it too late?  I don’t want to see Kansas women having to seek out websites like these for their abortions.  I don’t want women risking their lives doing a procedure on their own when they should be medically supervised.  Abortion is a safe procedure.  Why drive women to websites like these?  We keep saying things like abortion is only ok if the life of the mother is at risk.  If women are seeking abortions from websites like these, aren’t their lives at risk?  Doesn’t this qualify?

I can’t come up with anything funny to write about, because it just makes me sad.

Kansas – Don’t do this.  Don’t leave our women in Kansas in a desperate situation.  Don’t force them to seek out dangerous alternatives when they can have safe alternatives here in Kansas.  We can leave taxpayer money out of it.  Just leave them alone.  Let’s not leave women a “buy one, get one free” abortion option.  


Breaking: Abortion causes testicular cancer

Dear Kansas lawmakers:

I realize that you are getting ready to pass one of the most restrictive abortion bills in the country.  House bill 2253 is under consideration. I read over this monster bill – 70 pages (zzzz…I mean well done!) and I think before you pass it, I wanted to take a moment to point out a few things you left out and some changes I would like you to consider.

From the bill:

(a) At least 24 hours before the abortion the physician who is to
perform the abortion or the referring physician has informed the woman in
writing of:
(1) The name of the physician who will perform the abortion;
(2) a description of the proposed abortion method;
(3) a description of risks related to the proposed abortion method,
including risk of premature birth in future pregnancies, risk of breast
cancer and risks to the woman’s reproductive health and alternatives to the
abortion that a reasonable patient would consider material to the decision
of whether or not to undergo the abortion;

From the American Cancer Society:  Linking these 2 topics creates a great deal of emotion and debate. But scientific research studies have not found a cause-and-effect relationship between abortion and breast cancer.

I would suggest you add to the bill:

a description of risks related to the proposed abortion method, including risk of premature birth in future pregnancies, risk of breast cancer, testicular cancer, erections that can last up to four hours,  a decreased drop in blood pressure, contact your doctor if your erection last more than four hours or if your erection is painful.

Now you are also requesting that all abortion clinics add a visible sign to patients that reads:

It is unlawful for anyone to make you have an abortion against your will, even
if you are a minor. The father of your child must provide support for the
child, even if he has offered to pay for an abortion. If you decide not to
have an abortion, you may qualify for financial help for pregnancy,
childbirth and newborn care. If you qualify, Medicaid will pay or help pay
the cost of doctor, clinic, hospital and other related medical expenses,
including childbirth delivery services and care for your newborn baby.
Many agencies are willing to provide assistance so that you may carry
your child to term, and to assist you after your child’s birth.
I would add:  Unless we decide to repeal Medicaid and ObamaCare.  In that case, you are on your own!  Remember, Republicans believe in individual responsibly - Good luck and God bless!

To this section on coercion, my additions are in bold:

Furthermore, you should know that: (A) It is unlawful for any
individual to coerce you to undergo an abortion, but it is perfectly acceptable for the government to coerce you into not having an abortion.  It is acceptable for the government to use any means necessary including using misleading and even scientifically false medical information.  It is acceptable for the Kansas government to ignore the Constitutional ruling of the Supreme Court finding abortion to be a right of privacy  and attempt to make abortion illegal in the state of Kansas.  It is acceptable to repeatedly traumatize women who face a difficult decision of abortion by running unnecessary and costly tests by the abortion provider.  Coercion is the use of express or implied threats of violence or intimidation to compel a person to act against such person’s will;  It is acceptable to use threats of felonies and lawsuits for medical personnel by the state government to prove our political point regardless of federal law.  It is acceptable for us to be hypocrites when we write this type of legislation.  

Now my motto has always been go big or go home. You have done that with this bill!

Your science is amazing and I can only hope they teach this kind of science in public schools in Kansas.  It is right out of the Todd Akin science book.  From your bill:

the abortion will terminate the life of a whole, separate, unique,living being

Call me crazy, I think pregnant women may dispute the word “separate” here.  Unless the fetus hangs out next to the woman (talk about awkward), pregnant women have the fetus living in their uterus.  However, I’m open for debate here.  Give me a ring if you find a pregnant women who has their pregnancy with the fetus hanging out separately from them.

Anyway, I could go on and on, but like your bill, I don’t want to put people to sleep.  I hope you take my changes to heart before you vote on your bill.  I can’t wait until you set a precedence for it being o.k. for physicians to deliver medically inaccurate information.  Maybe that means when I go to my allergists they can tell me that allergy shots will make me thin and my chiropractor will tell me that his adjustments to my spine will make me younger.  The possibilities are endless.


Will it soon be illegal to eat dog in MO?

Republican John McCaherty, MO has introduced a bill to outlaw abortions based on sex selection or genetic abnormalities of the fetus.  This bill would allow for criminal and civil penalties to be brought against a doctor performing abortions based on  sex selection.

The Americans United for Life said this bill is necessary, because sex selection abortions have become increasingly common in “some Asian countries.”

Read that one again – “in some Asian countries”.

Just a few statistic to put this in perspective and then we will move on…

From – a pro-life website:

  • Number of abortions from the CDC in MO 6881
  • Number of abortions at 16 weeks when a doctor can tell the sex of a fetus – 2.7%.
  • Now how many of these abortions were from “sex selection” – my scientific opinion probably zero!

How do I know this number is probably zero?  I worked at a family planning clinic in the 90s.  Any person presenting to find out the sex of their fetus was TURNED AWAY.  ALWAYS TURNED AWAY.  No exceptions.  Now common sense tells me that a person seeking abortion would never say that they were seeking an abortion, because they were having a (insert boy or girl).  Silly common sense.  That’s like saying that a woman can become pregnant from rape.  Oh science – how you baffle me.

Moving on to other trends in “some Asian countries” that will soon be illegal in MO since they are setting the trend in 2013 MO legislation:

Eating yummy delicacies like -

  • pig brains
  • dog
  • spiders

Enjoy more of these buffet options on this slide show:

Come on MO representatives – we are counting on you to produce more bills to be sure that all Asian trends become illegal in MO.  The taxpayers have money to spare to be sure that trends like these and abortions from sex selection become a thing of the past in MO!  Way to spend taxpayer money wisely.

MO residents – be sure to call your representative and tell them how you support your taxpayer money being used to end all Asian inspired bills brought to the MO legislature!



Pro-Life Candidates Get Biggest Message From Campaign

So it’s over.  50% of the country is celebrating and the other 50% is trying to figure out what the hell happened.  Let the campaign analysis begin.  Mittens lost.  Did Obama out campaign him?  Did his own party blow it for him?  Was it Sandy’s fault?  Christie’s fault?  The flag pin’s fault?  My fault?  Mitt was so close.  He was never close really.  I guess it depends who you ask and who you want to believe.

The one thing we can all agree on as a nation is the whole campaign system is broken. The good news is it goes well with our broken economy.  Kinda like the shoes matching the belt.   The reality is it isn’t changing anytime soon.  So here is my big take-away from this whole thing.

A very strong and direct message was sent to the Pro-Life Movement yesterday.  Now that this election is over, I feel like I can lay it all out here.  See, we all know what Akin said.   I think he never really believed that the female body had a way of “shutting the whole thing down” when it came to pregnancy.  I believe extreme Pro-Life candidates like Aiken who said OUTRAGEOUS things about women’s reproductive systems were really saying, “I am pro-life in all cases even rape and incest.”  They just didn’t have the real guts to lay it out so concretely.

Instead of just saying that, they knew that it would be highly unpopular with moderate Americans.  So they started tap dancing to try to cover-up these extreme views.  In fact, there was more tap dancing around this than the talent portion of the Miss Glitter Pageant of Toddlers and Tiaras.  The more they danced the worse it got.  By that time you had statements like Akin’s and Mourdock’s who had just justify pregnancy somehow so they blamed God or excuse me, said pregnancy from rape was what “God intended”.

What once was a movement that seemed unstoppable, the Pro-Life movement, suddenly came to an abrupt stop or at the very least hit an enormous speed bump.  It wasn’t that people reacted to how stupid these statements were and didn’t vote for these candidates.  That conclusion is far too simplistic. I believe there was also a reaction to the intent of the statement – the statement being abortion in all circumstances, even in times of incest and rape was unacceptable.  The American people stopped this type of candidate.  To be perfectly clear, I’m not saying the American people all became pro-choice and everyone now has a Planned Parenthood bumper sticker on their car, but they certainly sent a strong message that pro-life in all circumstances regardless of how the pregnancy occurred did not appeal to them.

As I sit in KS, or as Fox News abbreviated it last night – KA – the hub of Pro-Life extremism, I sit satisfied that what used to be the unstoppable Pro-Life movement finally received a strong message from their own party.  There are limits.  The American voter has limits.  Abortion in all circumstances is not something the American people ultimately believe in.  Abortion in times of rape and incest and in times when the mother’s life is at risk is something the American people find acceptable.  Akin’s loss was more about his intention behind his stupid statement and not just based on his statement alone.

Time will tell if the GOP will take this message to heart and really try to change things before 2016.  I have some ideas about changing the whole campaign  system.  For example – the primaries?  That process sucks if you are the running against an incumbent.  Lengthening the presidential term.  Four years isn’t enough.  Look at how long FDR had to get us out of the Great Depression.    Don’t get me started on the Electoral College.   Somebody in charge of this stuff give me a ring if you want some ideas.

In the meantime, the campaign is over….now what?  Ping-pong anyone?

My weekly list: hybrids, eyebrow waxing, Pro-Life and Julia Roberts

So I’m sitting in a coffee shop writing my blog. This is a first. I feel so cool just by association.  I’m really just killing time waiting to meet some friends for dinner.  Of the six people in here on a Friday night, I could have birthed about 4 of them.  This is just fueling my fire and now Adele just started to play.

Perfect time to get a few things off my chest.  When I was thinking about what to write, there were too many things swimming through my brain to limit it to just one subject so I thought I would compile a Friday list of things.  Strap’s going to be a wild and random ride:

1.  My liberalmobile lied to me.  A few months back I gave up my gas munching SUV for an environmentally friendly hybrid.  My sky-blue baby even has a little earth on the dashboard that lights up with an ivy halo when I reach peak environmentally friendliness.  You can only drive one of these if you are a card-carrying member of the Democratic party.  Now I find out that Hyundai lied to me about gas mileage.  It was an “oversight” said Hyundai.  Sure – if I forget to pay my car payment this month, I’ll blame it on an “oversight”.  Now, Republicans tell me again how government oversight is a horrible thing for businesses?  Turns out I will be getting a refund for false advertising.  Damn those government regulations.  Those bad, bad government regulations that keep businesses honest by making them actually tell consumers the truth.

2.  This little study that came out earlier this month that studied if women were given FREE birth control – that means access to any birth control, including IUDs and implants what would happen.  Turns out the abortion rate GOES DOWN.  Did you read that – the ABORTION RATE GOES DOWN.  My blood pressure continues to escalate when I try to figure out how people can be pro-life and anti-obamacare.  I absolutely, positively don’t get this one.  Check out this incredibly cool video below.  I hope people watch this before Tuesday and vote these radical, pro-life extremists OUT of office.  They just don’t make any sense!

3.  This is a random one, but one that the ladies out there will understand.  I have been getting my eyebrows waxed since I was 14 years old.  Yes, 14 years old.  These days, eyebrow waxing for preteens is something we only see on Toddlers and Tiaras.  We are outraged when we see it now, but remember, this was the 80s when seat belts were just becoming mandatory and cold medicine for kids was given in mass quantities, sometimes even just to put Jr. to sleep.  Anyway, my mom told me at the time that the more years I had it done the less it would hurt.  That’s right – the more years I had it done, the less it would hurt.  It has been 26 years later and it still hurts like hell.  She lied.  I”m still working through this.  It never gets any easier.  As much as I love my mom, I’ll admit I’m still kinda pissed.

4.  This election is almost over.  If I’m getting tired of it and I’m a political addict, you know it’s been bad.  I’m already looking for things to fill my time after Tuesday.  I’ve decided to go on a spiritual journey.  That means I’m getting ready to join a synagogue.  I’m thinking my spiritual journey will be like Julia Roberts in Eat, Pray, Love.  I’ve never seen the movie, but I fantasize that my journey will take me to far away places where I will meditate with Russel Brand, eat gourmet meals with Gwyneth Paltrow and pray with people like Madonna.  The realistic journey is I will get my tush down to the local synagogue and pray.  This should be interesting.  More to come with this one.  It definitely can’t hurt and if anything may help me to be a little more pleasant and possibly a little less eccentric.  God, I hope you are listening to this.  Get ready.

Have a great weekend.  Remember to vote.  Please vote for Obama, but if you must vote for Romney – we can still be friends.  Just vote.  One thing is for sure, Tuesday night I will either be cheering or sobbing, but the world will keep on turning.  Wednesday will still come far too early and we will get up and get on with our lives putting one foot in front of the other.  America will survive and the same issues will be debated for generations to come.

I challenge Akin and Mourdock on their BS Pro-Life Stance

Here we go again.  Another Republican candidate spouting off about what God intended about abortion.

Richard Mourdock from Indiana said this last night,  “The only exception I have to have an abortion is in the case of the life of the mother,” said Mourdock, the Tea Party-backed state treasurer. “I struggled with it myself for a long time, but I came to realize life is that gift from God. I think that even when life begins in that horrible situation of rape, that it is something that God intended to happen.”

I’ve stopped beating my head against the wall long enough to write this.  Another day, another Republican telling me what God intended.  So, let’s face it guys, and I can call you all guys since it’s been guys who make all these extreme and wacky statements about abortion, God was a little wishy-washy about when life begins in the Bible – see previous posts.  Some say God defined life at conception and others say God defined life at the moment of birth.  Until the Big G shows up and tell us, the verdict is still out on this one.

Now I know most pro-life Republicans put conditions on the pro-life stance – abortion is only o.k. in times when the life of the mother is at risk.  Simple question..why?  If God intended that life begins at conception as you claim and life is a gift from God, why wouldn’t it also be  God’s intention to take the life of the mother at that point?  Is it, because you may lose some voters by saying in all cases even the case when the life of the mother is at risk? I don’t recall God calling this exception out in the Bible anywhere.  If you are so bold as to claim you know what God intended as far as abortion and when life begins then show me proof where it says, “except in cases where the mother’s life is at risk.”  I dare you.

Second, God interpreters also known as Republicans, who is to say that God didn’t intentionally put doctors on this earth to perform safe abortions?  When a heart surgeon performs a successful heart surgery we comment about how the skills are a “gift from God”.  Who is to say that God didn’t grant us the intelligence to perfect this procedure.  Abortion has been around for hundreds of years.  Many women died trying to get an illegal abortion.  Maybe it is God’s will?

Third, if you are so concerned about the life of the mother and you outlaw abortion, what happens when women start dying again from having illegal abortions?  What about the life of the mother then?  Just because you outlaw abortion does not mean they will stop.  We all know that abortions can be performed with a procedure termed as a “medical abortion”.  No people this is NOT the same as the morning after pill.  These pills can be obtained by some shady sites on the internet.  What’s to stop women from ordering this unregulated pills from the internet and performing illegal abortions in the privacy of their own home without a doctor’s supervision?  Women will die.  Mark my words.  If the life of women comes before all else all in this Republican pro-life debate, what about in this scenario?  Will safe abortions become legal again if there are enough deaths resulting from illegal abortions?

Oh and by the way, one thing God was crystal freaking clear on was adultery -

Exodus 20:14 “You shall not commit adultery.”

Deuteronomy 22:22 “If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die.

Leviticus 20:10 “If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife–with the wife of his neighbor–both the adulterer and the adulteress must be put to death.

I think this applies to people like Newt Gingrich and if memory serves he was campaigning for Akin.  If we are so sure of God’s intent, let’s not forget this one.  Akin, why are you o.k. with an endorsement from Gingrich if you and other extreme Pro-Life Republicans are so sure of God’s intent?  Is it just selective following of God’s intent?

Oh well, silly me.  I guess I’m just not as religious as you guys.

Gov. Brownback, God is on line 1 and he says you are wrong

Governor Brownback, God just spoke to me.  God and I just had a little one-on-one regarding your pro-life speech you gave in Arlington, VA.  For the readers here is a little taste of that speech:

Brownback said during a speech at the National Right to Life convention in Arlington, Va., the United States would place into law sentiment held by a majority of Americans that elective abortion should be illegal. This belief is reinforced, the governor said, by an understanding God would unequivocally stand for life.

This just in Governor.  God doesn’t agree.  See, he told me so.  You don’t have an exclusive to God.  I have conversations with God as well and he told me you are mistaken.  God wants me to remind you of a few things:

  • God never mentions abortion in the Bible.
  • God is pro-choice.
  • The highest court in the United States ruled that abortion was legal.  You need to honor that and not make it your personal quest to over turn it just because you think that’s the way it should be.
  • God is the supreme judge of people not you.
  • You need to stop your ego trip in defining God’s intentions.
  • In the Bible, God defines life as the time when he blew in the nostrils and the baby starts breathing.  It is in Genesis 2:7 to be exact: Then the LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground. He breathed the breath of life into the man’s nostrils, and the man became a living person.  This is NOT at the time of conception.

If anyone is wondering why America is so polarized politically look no further than politicians speaking on behalf of God.  A person’s relationship with God and interpreting the Bible is a personal experience.  Who says one person’s interpretation of what God intended is more right then the next person’s especially when it isn’t spelled out in the Bible?  This is more than I’m right and you are wrong.  It is I’m right and I go to heaven and you are wrong and you go to hell.  Why is Governor Brownback’s conversations with God any more relevant than my conversations with God?  My God is pro-choice and pro-woman.  Why shouldn’t that take precedence over his interpretation?  Who gets to be more right?  It is not like God will phone in his vote like it is Dancing with the Stars.  Or maybe he will.  Did God just vote for Bristol Palin?  He said she is sure shaking what he gave her.

If there was one thing the Founding Father’s were crystal clear on it was Separation of Church and State.  The Republican Party shoves the intentions of the Founding Father’s down our throats when it comes to the 2nd amendment.  Governor Brownback, listen to your party.  Federal law trumps state law.  Respect the system the Founding Fathers set up.  Stop wasting Kansas money on laws that will always be challenged in court costing Kansans thousands in taxpayer money.  Go to church.  Pray that there is an end in abortion.  I encourage you to do that.  Try to convince people through your church not to have abortions.  I think there is room in this country for pro-life and pro-choice.  If this is your personal quest, honor it in your own time in a peaceful, non-violent way.  Just keep it out of government.

God told me these were his wishes.  I pray to the same God you do.  I claim my interpretation is right…so there.

KS birth control laws pushing new business away

Dear business owners, CEOs and entrepreneurs:

This is a letter to anyone thinking of moving their business to Kansas. Kansas is a great place for businesses and a great place for families. I grew up here and moved back to raise my family after spending time on the east coast. It is Midwest living at its finest. There is plenty of space to build a beautiful company headquarters to your liking. Your employees can find affordable housing and their children can attend the best schools. Let’s not forget the excellent BBQ!

With all of this great Midwest living, I have to tell you, if you have female employees in your company I would highly suggest not moving here. See there are a lot of other great places that also have great housing, wonderful schools and good food that are probably more female friendly. Our government spends a ridiculous amount of time writing, debating and passing extreme legislation on abortion and birth control. They could spend time finding ways to make Kansas more business friendly instead they waste hours and hours writing legislation finding ways to outlaw birth control in our great state.

Just yesterday Rep Lance Kinzer (R, Olathe) who sponsored the most recent anti-birth control bill that allows doctors and pharmacists who oppose prescribing any medication that they feel causes an abortion said this,

“The bill’s very clearly drafted to say that it only applies where there’s a termination of pregnancy, ” Kinzer said. “I’m no medical expert and so I leave it to others to talk about which specific drugs are, in fact, abortion-inducing.” KC Star 3/29/2012

The bill is SB62 Here’s the deal business owners, this bill is so vague and it leaves no room for anyone to sue a pharmacist or doctor who doesn’t prescribe birth control. A pharmacist could decide that all birth control causes abortion by preventing pregnancy in the first place. If you decide to bring your business to Kansas you could risk bringing it to an area where your female employee could not get birth control. What does that mean? A lot to your business financially. Pregnancy is a wonderful thing when planned and wanted. Everyone agrees with that. However, we all know pregnancy costs an employer a lot of money! Without access to birth control, your employees are now faced with unwanted and unplanned pregnancies and that costs a lot to your bottom line in lost productivity, increased insurance costs and decreased employee moral.

Now, does this mean the entire state will be birth control free? Probably not at this point, but if Rep. Kinzer has his way it sure seems like that’s what he is going for. Also, what if you decide to move your business to a small town and the only local pharmacist decides not to stock birth control? Why risk it. What if the state outlaws Plan B in the entire state? At this point anything is possible.

I long for a time when my state government focused on jobs and the economy of KS. I wish they would work on making Kansas a state where businesses would want to relocate instead of creating law that is so hurtful to female employees. I am sorry potential Kansas business that you can’t have an opportunity to enjoy our schools, our beautiful parks and our wonderful food. In business, the bottom line counts. It wouldn’t make financial sense to move to a state that does not make sound decisions about legislation without thinking about the bottom line of Kansas businesses and instead put their own personal moral opinions in front of everything else. Remember, women are 50% of the workforce.

Enjoy your time in another state. You will be missed!

I guess that means more BBQ for me.



What America can learn from Amina Filali & how Santorum is part of the problem.

I’m taking off my bejeweled thong from yesterday and putting on my more serious thinking cap today.  There was a story out today that a young girl, 16 year old Amina Filali from Morocco was raped and then by Moroccan law was forced to marry her rapist.

In conservative parts of Morocco, it dishonors a family if a girl loses her virginity before marriage. A  judge can order the rapist to marry his victim and restore the family’s honor.  According to the story from the BBC, that is what happened in Amina’s case.  She married her rapist and then went on to drink rat poison and kill herself. This has caused international outrage that a law like the one in Morocco even exists.  Hopefully, with the world paying attention, the Moroccan law will be changed.  I hope, but in my pessimistic state of mind right now regarding the state of women, my conclusion is…don’t bet on it.

As I was thinking about the Filali family this morning and what they must be going through, the thought kept racing through my mind, “making the best out of a bad situation”.  In their part of the world, family honor is everything.  I am sure the Filali’s did not want their daughter to kill herself.  I hope, as parents, they just wanted to make the best out of a horrible situation.  That same phrase kept running through my mind, “make the best out of a bad situation.”  They just wanted to make the best out of a bad situation and that was marrying off their now “dishonorable” daughter to the man who dishonored her.  As disgusting as this sounds to the western world, that was probably their and the court’s mindset.

Who the hell said that recently?  I know I heard that before…it was an American.  Someone in the public eye.  Then it dawned on me. Here is where I heard it,

Rick Santorum.  That is where I heard it recently.  He was describing a pregnancy that was creating out of rape.  Keeping the pregnancy was also “making the best out of a bad situation”.  What’s the difference here really?  Either way the girl or woman is constantly reminded of her trauma over and over again forcing her to be re traumatized constantly.  What makes us think that in Santorum’s world we would be immune from women committing suicide to escape their torture just as Amina escaped hers?

As Santorum continues to win state after state in the primaries, it is not from his spectacular economic policy, it is from his old world social policies that appeal to people.  How can we, America, be really shocked and outraged at what happens in Morocco when we are taking step after step backwards in this country to do things not far off from what happened in Morocco?  Just think about it. Forced and unnecessary vaginal ultrasounds, women having to plead their case for contraception, abortions outlawed in all cases.

I can hear people now saying, “well it’s not like we would ever be that radical.”  Oh really?  I hope to God we would never have our women marry our rapists to uphold our honor, but I never thought we would be outlawing sex education, make contraceptives so shameful that women have to prove on a monthly pain scale why they are justified in taking them and make traumatized women carry their pregnancies to term.  I never thought we would allow doctors to lie to women or we would even consider make practicing medicine a crime.

I encourage you to go online and learn more about Amina’s case.  Learn more about the state of women’s issues all over the world.  I had tea once with a man in Burkina Faso who told me he respected women and so he was only going to have six wives instead of eight.  He was in his late 40s and his 16 year old first wife was serving tea.  Her young daughter was with her and she was already sold into marriage.  The man received a few camels and a donkey for her.  Never in my life have I never wanted to grab a child and run away.  I didn’t, because I knew I could not do anything in that case except enjoy my tea and learn about their customs.  In this case, I feel like I can do a little something by writing this blog and pointing out America that before we are outraged over seas, we need to look here at ourselves and get our own act together.  Do I think there is a “war on women”?  No, but I think there is some really repressive legislation going on here that needs to stop so we don’t inch closer to resemble more extreme countries around the world. Let’s continue to move forward instead of taking massive steps back.  I only want to make the best out of great situations here in America.

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