Aimee Patton

A pleasantly eccentric take on politics

I’m taking off my bejeweled thong from yesterday and putting on my more serious thinking cap today.  There was a story out today that a young girl, 16 year old Amina Filali from Morocco was raped and then by Moroccan law was forced to marry her rapist.  http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-17379721

In conservative parts of Morocco, it dishonors a family if a girl loses her virginity before marriage. A  judge can order the rapist to marry his victim and restore the family’s honor.  According to the story from the BBC, that is what happened in Amina’s case.  She married her rapist and then went on to drink rat poison and kill herself. This has caused international outrage that a law like the one in Morocco even exists.  Hopefully, with the world paying attention, the Moroccan law will be changed.  I hope, but in my pessimistic state of mind right now regarding the state of women, my conclusion is…don’t bet on it.

As I was thinking about the Filali family this morning and what they must be going through, the thought kept racing through my mind, “making the best out of a bad situation”.  In their part of the world, family honor is everything.  I am sure the Filali’s did not want their daughter to kill herself.  I hope, as parents, they just wanted to make the best out of a horrible situation.  That same phrase kept running through my mind, “make the best out of a bad situation.”  They just wanted to make the best out of a bad situation and that was marrying off their now “dishonorable” daughter to the man who dishonored her.  As disgusting as this sounds to the western world, that was probably their and the court’s mindset.

Who the hell said that recently?  I know I heard that before…it was an American.  Someone in the public eye.  Then it dawned on me. Here is where I heard it,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rfbKR6qBa48

Rick Santorum.  That is where I heard it recently.  He was describing a pregnancy that was creating out of rape.  Keeping the pregnancy was also “making the best out of a bad situation”.  What’s the difference here really?  Either way the girl or woman is constantly reminded of her trauma over and over again forcing her to be re traumatized constantly.  What makes us think that in Santorum’s world we would be immune from women committing suicide to escape their torture just as Amina escaped hers?

As Santorum continues to win state after state in the primaries, it is not from his spectacular economic policy, it is from his old world social policies that appeal to people.  How can we, America, be really shocked and outraged at what happens in Morocco when we are taking step after step backwards in this country to do things not far off from what happened in Morocco?  Just think about it. Forced and unnecessary vaginal ultrasounds, women having to plead their case for contraception, abortions outlawed in all cases.

I can hear people now saying, “well it’s not like we would ever be that radical.”  Oh really?  I hope to God we would never have our women marry our rapists to uphold our honor, but I never thought we would be outlawing sex education, make contraceptives so shameful that women have to prove on a monthly pain scale why they are justified in taking them and make traumatized women carry their pregnancies to term.  I never thought we would allow doctors to lie to women or we would even consider make practicing medicine a crime.

I encourage you to go online and learn more about Amina’s case.  Learn more about the state of women’s issues all over the world.  I had tea once with a man in Burkina Faso who told me he respected women and so he was only going to have six wives instead of eight.  He was in his late 40s and his 16 year old first wife was serving tea.  Her young daughter was with her and she was already sold into marriage.  The man received a few camels and a donkey for her.  Never in my life have I never wanted to grab a child and run away.  I didn’t, because I knew I could not do anything in that case except enjoy my tea and learn about their customs.  In this case, I feel like I can do a little something by writing this blog and pointing out America that before we are outraged over seas, we need to look here at ourselves and get our own act together.  Do I think there is a “war on women”?  No, but I think there is some really repressive legislation going on here that needs to stop so we don’t inch closer to resemble more extreme countries around the world. Let’s continue to move forward instead of taking massive steps back.  I only want to make the best out of great situations here in America.

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