A number of days have passed since the horrible murder-suicide of Belcher and Perkins. Kansas City is grieving and processing the terrible tragedy. My last post was my initial reaction based on the few facts that came out initially about the incident and my experience working in domestic violence.
There has been a lot of response to my last post – good and bad. The most interesting is that I have a personal agenda that I am trying to push.
Do I have a personal agenda that I’m trying to push regarding the Belcher/Perkins tragedy?
Yes, I have a personal agenda that I am trying to push. I am not ashamed of it. In fact, I am not trying to hide it at all. I want to shout it from the rooftops!
My personal agenda in writing about the Belcher/Perkins murder-suicide is I don’t want to see another woman get seriously injured or murdered at the hands of an abuser.
Can I be any clearer about my agenda?
I am simply trying to use my knowledge about domestic violence to reach out to people and help them understand what happened so maybe we can prevent another unnecessary murder.
- Like I said before – all “types” of men abuse women.
- Leaving is the most dangerous time in a domestic violence relationship. It is when most homicides happen.
- Babies can often make domestic violence situations worse.
- Alcohol and drugs can increase the intensity of domestic violence outbursts, but they are not the cause of domestic violence.
- The best place for a woman to go when leaving an abuser is to a domestic violence shelter – not to a relative’s home.
- Don’t focus on the abuser’s behavior and if he will “change”. Focus on what you can control if you are the one being abused. Get help!
If you or someone you know is being abused, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE.
Please forward this blog post and get the word out. Let’s try to save a life.